I Don't Need Meninism

The urban dictionary definition of 'meninism' is: "Meninism is a mockery of feminism and proves that we can't request equality without white men making everything about themselves." YES!

Rant time: Why do privileged white men have to make a fuss about things that don't even directly affect them? For thousands of years, who has had the upper hand? WHITE MEN. Now I'm not hating on men or generalizing all white men. I realize there are many men who believe in equality, and I'm eternally grateful for that. As a society, we are making a lot of progress. I'm just pointing out a clear flaw here. Don't make women's struggles a joke. Feminism isn't about getting retweets or getting your 13 year old friends to like you. Feminism isn't a parody.

So don't you for a second think it's okay to say that minorities don't have to struggle anymore. "Women can vote now. Segregation and slavery are over. Blah." Sure, that may be true but that doesn't mean prejudice and inequality are completely gone. I know, I know: reverse racism and reverse sexism do exist. There are black people who are racist against white people, and there are women sexist against men. Is it wrong? Yes. Yet when it truly comes down to it, I don't see how that affects you, considering 1) it's individuals who do that rather than huge chunks of society, 2) you have more privilege and 3) you haven't dealt with the prejudice they have.

I understand, guys. There are double standards in the world and as a male, you might feel insecure, objectified or stereotyped.

What you are forgetting is this: feminism isn't about disregarding men. It's about equality for ALL. We want to include you in that. Sure, we want equal pay for women. Sure, we want society to be able to accept that a woman can be whoever she wants to be. HOWEVER: We also want men to be able to be whoever they want to be. Whether that be fat, skinny, feminine, masculine, sensitive, strong, assertive, submissive, tall, short, etc.

You can be who you are, and that's the great thing about feminism. I was so shocked to find out the word "anti-feminist" even exists. There are different definitions of the word online based upon interpretation. Yet as we all know, 'anti' means 'against.' Feminist means you believe in feminism. Feminism is defined as "the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men." Therefore, 'anti-feminist' means you do NOT believe women and men are politically, socially and economically equal.

Feminism has extremists, but that doesn't mean we should disregard feminism or make it into a satirical joke. Feminism affects you. If there is no gender equality in the world, both genders have to deal with the issues. Feminism isn't criminalizing you for having kids or for having no kids or working a 9 to 5 job or staying at home. Feminism says, "that's okay! that's your choice." I will say this: I love cooking and wearing pink dresses but that doesn't mean I all of the sudden don't need feminism anymore. We need equality. We are NOT victims. We are not DEFINED by our genders. No matter what extremists may say, we are proud to be who we are and will express it.

So let's work together on making everyone feel like they have the opportunity to express themselves for who they are, not for what their gender role is demanding of them.