Don't Force Your Experiences Onto Anyone (including yourself)

You've heard "don't shove your beliefs down my throat" and "stop pushing your beliefs on me!" So what does "don't force your experiences onto anyone" mean?

It all started when it was a slow day at work and I was talking to one of my coworkers about life. We were sharing our beliefs on typical subjects: religion, politics, love and life. I love seeing other peoples perspectives on things whether I agree with it or not; and she had a rather negative one. Her parents got a divorce when she was ten. The only relationships she was ever in ended in bad break-ups. Because of this she was going on about how she doesn't believe in love and that people can't be together forever. I tried to explain to her that she is very young and shouldn't make such a negative assumption based on her two high school relationships. Not everyone is right for each other. But that doesn't mean you should give up entirely on love.

I think it's important to remember that what happens on the outside cannot bother you on the inside if you don't let it. Outside forces are something that will try to destroy your life. You have to stay strong and realize who you are and what you believe in and stick by it regardless of your experiences.

Psychologists need to stop saying that people "turn out bad" or "turn out good" (like humans are fricking cupcakes) because of their childhood circumstances. This is something I will forever disagree with because I know several individuals who were abused, grew up with drug addicts and alcoholics  etc, that are successful and happy. I also know several individuals who grew up in great homes who are now not in such a great place.

What I'm trying to say here, is you can't define the human race. No opinion is universal or 100% certain and experiences are something that are 90% of the time out of our control. We make the choice to do things, but we never know how it will turn out.

You shouldn't push your beliefs OR experiences onto somebody. My coworker may not believe in love, and that's okay. But I KNOW love is real and I know it can last forever. I've always believed that and I am now living it.

/// Yet most of all, it's vital to not force your experiences onto yourself. Something bad happened to you? That doesn't define you. That doesn't mean you're this or that. It just happened to you. How you handle your experiences is what defines you, not the experience itself. 

I think it's brave and inspiring to stick by who you are and your beliefs no matter what happens to you. Whether they be positive or negative, popular or unpopular, big or small...

You are not a cupcake. You are a HUMAN BEING.

"Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you." -Game of Thrones

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